How to love yourself in your wedding photos

By Katy & Co. | London wedding photographer

Written by Katy

London wedding photographer on the hunt for inspiration and sweet treats.

Countless couples are concerned about wedding photography poses ( how do I look my best? ) or worried about the experience of having their photos taken at their wedding. 

If you’re reading this you are not alone! You may worry that you won’t look ‘good’ or you will pull funny faces, or look like a startled deer in headlights ( that’s me for sure!)

This anxiety is so common that I wanted to offer some advice on how to feel comfortable and how to enjoy the experience on your wedding day.

I’ll offer some practical tips in another post on wedding photography poses, but here are some thoughts on self love and acceptance, before moving on to how to pose. Without addressing this first, the latter will just feel awkward.  

wedding photography poses - thoughts on self love
wedding photography poses - thoughts on self love

o1 - Self Acceptance

For years I hated myself in photos, I would avoid them at all costs! but over time I am learning to change my conditioned ‘self speak’ about myself and learning to be kinder to myself about my appearance – especially in photos.

Everyone has something they are hung up about and everyone’s body shape is unique. But the people that really shine bright in wedding photos are those that forget themselves, be in the moment and simply let go.  

Tips + Things to ask yourself

Are you worried about your appearance? Are you worried about impressing others and not living up to an expectation of being ‘perfect’? Are you worried about someone close to you judging you?

Can a photographer help you feel better about yourself? Yes to an extent – but really you are the master of your own feelings. If you don’t like yourself, you won’t like yourself in photos. It’s the truth. 

Check out this article from psychology today on 26 ways to love yourself

o2 - Focus on the bigger picture in your photos

First of all our focus is capturing your happiness on your wedding day, of you, your partner, your drunk mates and your family having a blast!

Furthermore as a photographer, we can’t take away negative feelings you have about yourself, when you look at yourself in your photos. I wish we could, but we aren’t magicians!

Therefore If you feel those negative thoughts clouding over you, saying stuff like, I look fat, what’s my hair doing? my dress looks frumpy, try and reframe. Remember how happy you FELT. Think about how the photos take you back to the moment you said yes to you best friend, the joy you felt dancing with your closest friends and those sweet moments with your partner.

wedding photography poses - thoughts on self love
wedding photography poses - thoughts on self love
wedding photography poses - thoughts on self love

o3 - Focus on your partner

It really works. Take yourself out of your own head and simply focus on your partner’s energy and emotion and not worry about wedding photography poses. Dance, play, laugh, cry, run and just be with them. Don’t crush this precious time worrying if your guests are having a good time, are the canapés nice, have the flowers arrived at the reception. NO one cares! Seriously. So stop caring, relax, be free and your photos will be beaming with happiness and love. It’s just one day. So live it!   

o4 - Put aside your 'flaws'

Leading up to my wedding I was worried about how I’d look on my wedding day.

My friend who made me literally the best wedding dress ever, everything I wanted. But when I looked in the mirror I found myself focusing on the parts of me I disliked. 

And you know what. On the day, I didn’t think about my body once. I was so happy, to see Wayne at the chapel, seeing all my friends and family having a good time that none of it mattered.  

Above all the energy you will feel on your wedding day is immense. And it will come through in your photos if you let it. Forgive your ‘flaws’. Literally no one is looking at those things but you. Be happy, let go and enjoy your party!

wedding photography poses - thoughts on self love

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